Belated marriages beget vices

Mir Babar Ali
In our society there are numerous vices entrenched. If we start counting them and put them alphabetically just to know about the exact number they are certain to number more than we have expected. On top of all social evils, are sexual activities which now seem to have become an integral and irremovable part of our societies thus undermining them with a rapid pace. Each passing day, without doubt, Everyone of us reads news-stories about boys and girls being violated. Minors are also not exempt from such brutal ‘physical assaults’ and are rather an easy prey compared to teenagers. The cases of rape-cum-murder incidents of children reported from every nook and corner of the country every few days making the headlines every day are solid evidence of the matter in hand. There are of course, a number of reasons for them to have existed: Impunity, inaction on the part of the relevant organizations and late marriages are those underlying causes that need proper attention to eradicate or curtail aforementioned vices. One expects the authorities concerned to ponder over them. Timely marriages can prevent young people committing sins Parents are also to blame in this regard. There is a need to understand this, Youngsters should not be made to wait for marriages for want of money or a job. In one’s opinion, that decision of today’s parents of making youngsters wait for years, is very bad and revolting in fact. There is also a need to distinguish between impacts of timely and late marriages. Timely marriages prevent young people from committing sins while late marriages affect reproduction in people while bringing a hundred risks with them such as disrespect, shame etc. Because chances of getting involved in immoral activities are high when one is unmarried. To address these issues, simple steps are to be taken: It is not necessary to spend a very huge amount of money in our loved ones’ marriages. After all, spending wealth beyond one’s financial status is stupidity and has in practice, nothing to do with marriages at all. it is, in fact a waste of time and money that can be used differently. Therefore, Spending too much money in marriages and that too in a wrong way must be stopped soon as it is the need of the hour. The sooner the better. Another point that needs to be discussed is that, according to statistics shared by experts, late marriages open doors to various vices, a few of which are adultery and sodomy, homosexuality etc. However, these vices are preventable ones and can be stamped out afterwards. In this regard, one will suggest Early and timely marriages. It is very sad that For the last few years, cases of child abuse have been increasing promptly and will regretfully, continue to do so in the days to come if interest was not shown to control them. This is also a result of late marriages. As per shared data, ‘sexual lust’ as a result of late marriages drives youngsters to commit offences for which One will propose concrete and prudent steps concerning that matter. For that, an easy and unregulated access to the dark web perverting the minds of the youth ought to be regulated immediately since easy availability of pornographic material available on YouTube and other such apps are having negative impacts on the minds of adults including children. Once again it is to be repeated, this is all preventable with early marriages but alas, satanic desires of today’s people’s don’t allow them to do so as they seem ‘used’ to expensive marriages and showing their friends, relatives, neighbours, and acquaintances how much money they have. Perhaps they have forgotten that our Holy Prophet (S.A.W) gave a few household items to his dearest daughter Bibi Fatima Zehra the Queen of the Paradise (May Allah Be Pleased with Her). At the time of his marriage Hazrat Moula Ali (May Allah Be Pleased with Him) had to sell his shield to Hazrat Usman (May Allah Be Pleased with Him) to be able to pay haq mahar ( a little amount of money given to the bride at the time of marriage or sometimes after it). These examples are the lessons for us. Which we need to keep remembering to lead exemplary lives. History is replete with similar instances that provide us ample guidance over how to get married simply to save both money and time consumed in pointless long waits. Parents have a vital role to play in all of this. They should realize on a more serious note that making their sons and daughters wait for too long while amassing wealth for a big show is nothing but pointless or folly. These long waits cause youngsters to fall prey to various social evils. getting out of which afterwards becomes almost impossible. In addition, There are no Islamic decrees to make marriages look expensive rather we get examples of simple marriages in which a little money is spent. These examples are still relevant for us and for the people to come. Certainly, we can prevent these cancerous vices if mentioned-steps are to be taken.