Parental Control to Controlling Parents

Laiba Bashir
Parental controls are the names for a group of settings that put you in control of what content your child can see. Combined with privacy settings these can help you protect your children from the things they shouldn’t see or experience online.More than nine in ten parents of 5-15s who use parental control software consider it useful. 65% of young people aged 11-16 are in favour of the controls. 15% of Teens say parental controls and restrictions should only be taken away once they’re over 18 years of age.Many parents are put off using controls and settings as they think they will be difficult to set up, or complicated to use. With our step by steps guides, we can help make it simple and straightforward.There are two types of parental control – behavioral control and psychological control. PSYCHOLOGICAL CONTROL: Psychological control refers to intruding into children’s emotional and psychological development. It is an approach used during the early ages of life of children. Psychological control includes being intrusive, overprotective, possessive, directive, nd controlling through every little thing. BEHAVIORAL CONTROL: Behavioral control refers to supervising and managing children’s behavior. These parents discipline their kids’ behavior, monitor their whereabouts, and oversee their social life. Behavioral control is intended to regulate children’s behaviors to conform to the prevailing family or social norms.Autonomy and regulation are both essential in a child’s development. Autonomy allows a child to develop a separate identify away from their parents. This process of individuation is particularly important during adolescence when teenagers are getting prepared for adulthood.Behavioral control, to a certain extend, is paramount in a child’s healthy development. It aims to monitor, teach and regulate appropriate behavior.However, when parents go overboard and control every minute details of their children’s behavior, they become controlling parents. Controlling parents are nonresponsive to their children’s emotional and psychological needs. They constrain, invalidate, and manipulate the kids’ psychological experience. They also stifle independent expression of emotion. These controlling parents manipulate children’s feelings, thoughts or ideas through the parent-child relationship using guilt, love withdrawal, showing disappointment, disapproval and shaming. In addition, they want to keep their kids emotionally dependent and enmeshed with them. So what is the term “controlling parents” …? You are dealing with your teenage child through behavioural control..! is it controlling category ? NO. Having a psychological check on a small child..! Is it controlling..? NO.So what actually controlling is..? It is as mentioned before, the most extreme and rigorous type of use of parental authority..! Wether it’s behavioural or psychological, when you cross a certain limit to such extreme that your child enters into a stress error is actually what the term “CONTROLLING PARENTS” means. In such situations you need a psycho therapy for the child and believe me, it’s worst you can do to him. And if you’re not exceeding the limit, you’re just using the parental control authority. A well known Man said: “The sign of great parenting is not child’s behaviour. The sign of great parenting is parent’s behaviour.”