Self confidence

Ibrar Ali Samo
There were many people who have told about self confidence .Self trust is the first secret of success (RALPH WALDO EMERSON) self confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings (SAMUEL ADAMS) Success is vehicle which moves on wheel called “Hard work” but the journey is impossible without fuel called “self confidence” .( ABDUL KALAM) Confidence is not “They will like me” but confidence is ” i will be fine if they do not” .( CHRISTINA GRIMME) . as i begun to love myself i understood that at any , i am in the right place at the right time and everything happens at the exactly right moment , so I could be calm , today I call it self confidence ( CHARLIE CHAPLIN). Make the most of your self for that is all there is of you ( RALPH WALDO EMERSON) Confidence is actually a skill that you can develop, Even if you can not imagine how that could be possible for you right now , too many people are discouraged about their abilities because they set themselves goals that are too difficult to achieve , start by setting yourself small goals that you can win easily , Once you have built a stream of success that make you feel good about yourself , you can then move on to harder goals ,make sure that you also keep a list of all your achievements both large and small to remind yourself of the times that have done well . HOW TO BE MORE CONFIDENT .Stop comparing ,stay focused on you .Relax , Go with the flaw and do not stress the little things .love yourself , you are a gift , nothing would be the same if you do not exist . .be positive and look for the Good in every situation .Do what you love , life is too short to waste your time doing anything else .face your fears .prepare for the both , Good and Bad . Understand that failure will not kill you . Negativity is your number one enemy it is the first thing you need to learn to deal with you must stamp it out , i can not stress it enough being positive is an essential element of self confidence. Lacking confidence often means having a very low opinion of yourself , there is only answer to this and there is no getting out of it , if you want to move forward , you will need to learn to have self love and good communication skills are really an essential step in learning how to gain confidence , these skills are delicate balance between listening and speaking ,you must do the things that challenge you most , it is impossible to get more confident if you just think about it , it takes courage to step out of your comfort zone , it is the right thing to do .if you fail at something ,try it again but approach it differently .never avoid situations that you have failed at if they matter to you to learn the mistakes and move on this takes resilience and finally too many very capable people lack faith in their own abilities ,this stops them doing the things they really want to do the main reason for this is a fear of failure ,the thoughts of getting it wrong is enough to stop them doing things . There are 12 pillars of lasting self confidence 1. Know what you want to beat self doubt , have fu control of your life . 2. Discover your true self ,acknowledge your values ,beliefs ,strength ,be comfortable what you truly are ! 3. Accept yourself exactly that what you have amazing qualities ,you do not have to be perfect to be loved and happy . 4. You are amazing just because you are YOU, there is none like you. 5. Embrace your uniqueness ,being Authentic you will get zero competition 6.Look at your accomplishment ,what have you achieved in your life ? Count your successes instead of your failings . 7. Face and challenges your fears ! Take action any way , be encouraged . 8.understand that everyone is trying to have their needs met, no need to take personally anymore ,it is never really against you . 9. understand the positive intention of every kind of emotion , control every behaviour you have . 10. Have time for yourself? Get some time to ” recharge ” your batteries .11. Self confidence is a skill to develop ,practice it a lot and you will improve on it , it is like playing piano you can improve by practicing 12. look up to 2 or 3 of your super confidence heroes , imagine what they would do or feel what they used to do when in your situation.Speak 5 lines to yourself for being confident these are , I am the best . I can do it. God is always with me . I am a winner . Today is my day . Because if you give up it means you never wanted it , Do not be frightened of fear, learn that failure is not an end albeit it is a lesson that leads to new begnings and celebrate the little wins on daily basis , once you feel nice about yourself it means you have planted the first seed to develop self confidence , Do not change so people will like you , be yourself and right people will love the real you . Sometimes you go through your toughest battles alone without telling anybody else about it ,and you still end up being Okay that is real strength , Be proud ! Stop beating yourself up you are a work in progress which means you get there a little at a time , Not All at once . Confidence is not walking into a room with your nose in air and thinking that you are better than everyone else , It is a walking into a room and not having to compare yourself to anyone else in the first place , believe in yourself and All that you are , know that there is something inside you and that is greater than any obstacle . A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of branch breaking , because her trust is not on the branch but on it ‘s own wings so Always believe in yourself , you never know how strong you are Until being strong is the only option you have left . Self confidence is a super power once you start to believe in yourself magic starts happening , measure your confidence because self confidence is the most attractive quality , A person can Have , How can anyone see how great you are if you can not see it yourself . You are the problem and you are the Only solution , what ever you think you can or you think you can not You are Right .