Trust the self to be confident


Iqra Rasheed Sial
Trust is always superior than any belief system and you cannot trust on any relationship or person until you start trusting the self. Self-confidence is a state of being in which the thoughts you have create a belief in yourself and your capabilities. The foundation of this belief is trust. Cultivating a relationship of trust with yourself is one of the most important things you can do. Studies have shown that confidence is one of the leading contributors to a successful professional life, often more so than competence or knowledge. Trusting yourself can build up your confidence, make it easier for you to make decisions, and reduce your    stress levels. To trust the self you need to first accept as you are with your uniqueness and this uniqueness with self-awareness is the seed for confidence. Trust the self to transform: Trust is fundamental to life, its first experience starts with your mother as a child because mother is the window for a child to enter into existence. Psychologists says love and affection for a child by mother is so deeply penetrated in unconscious that it affect the personality of a person through his/her entire life. The first experience of trust by child is gained through mother followed by parents with trust and love, give confidence into his life. If a child gets beautiful showering of love and affection during childhood. Its result is great trust and confidence. Be yourself: If you fear how others will look at you or judge you, you might find it difficult to be yourself around other people. Acting like a different person than who you really are is a sign that you’re lacking self-confidence and trust in yourself. Other people will be able to sense that. So how do you build up your trust enough to be yourself around others? When you start to feel insecure around others, remind yourself that it’s OK to be you. Once you can be yourself around other people, they’ll treat you with more trust. This can help you build up your trust in yourself. Unburden from past: Never to suppressive for anything, do not carry any negative act, thought or emotion for a long period of time, just release and unburden yourself from all bad past experiences and this unburdening will not only give you a great feeling of relaxation but will help to develop a great sense of self trust followed by confidence. Build on your strengths: Everyone is better at some things and worse at others. You probably have a good idea of what things you excel at and which things you don’t do as well with. Trusting yourself means being able to attempt to do all kinds of things without judging yourself too harshly. However, if you’re looking to build trust in yourself, it can be helpful to do more of the things that you’re good at and less of the things that you aren’t great at. If you’re not sure what you’re good at, ask those people closest to you. Spend more time doing those things and building your trust knowing you’ll excel at those things. Be accepting of your strengths, as well as your weaknesses. Be kind to yourself: You’ve probably heard the term “unconditional love.” Maybe it’s been mentioned in relation to the connection a parent has with their child, or the love that exists between siblings, friends, or even romantic partners. But did you know that it’s also very important to love yourself unconditionally? Loving yourself unconditionally means getting rid of negative thoughts about yourself and any self-criticism after you make a mistake. Start by keeping a close eye on your inner voice, and how it reacts to your actions. Is it kind or mean? Is it accepting or critical? When you can love yourself unconditionally, you can trust yourself unconditionally. And that builds confidence.”Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life.Make the most  of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”