Seven habits of highly effective teenagers

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Fatima Imam Bakhsh
Book Review
Seven Highly Effective Teen Habits was first published in 1998 by Sean Covey. The book is a self-help book for young adults and teens. The author has included humorous stories about his teenage experiences as well as visually appealing graphics. The book has sold over 5 million copies worldwide since its first publication in 1998, just as the “adult” version of the book: 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. This makes Sean Covey one of the most popular writers among today’s youth. This book is a step-by-step guide to help practically any young person improve their self-esteem, make friends, cope with peer pressure, and achieve goals. It details 7 habits that will help you start to be a happy, healthy teenager. Personally, I think even adults can read this book because it applies to everyone. I must have read this book for any young person looking for the excitement of being extremely engaged and successful. Has changed to adapt to youth. Author Sean Covey has reviewed 7 habits of highly positive adolescents who use positive habits that help teens improve their relationships and determine what they want out of life. Every teenager is different, but great people share seven common traits: Part 1: Get in the HabitHabits are a big part of a teenager’s life. They can either balance the complex and busy life of a teenager or make life difficult and ruin it. Children always complain that they don’t have time for anything because of all the school work, friends, family, sports, etc. Some children even go through depression and medication, so Covey has developed 7 habits for highly effective teenagers to help them. These kids’ habits are: Be proactive, begin with the end in mind, put first things first, think win-win, Seek first to understand, Then to be understood, synergize, and sharpen the saw. To be successful, you must apply these habits to your daily life. Doing so will help you overcome your inner worries. It will then help you build good relationships with others, and ultimately help you renew your habits. On the other hand, some habits will take you down. These are:  React, begin with no end in mind, put first things last, think win-lose, seek first to talk then pretend to listen, don’t cooperate, and wear yourself out. As you can see, habits can lead you in the right or wrong direction. Part 1: Paradigms and Principles One chapter describes how paradigms and principles can make or break you. First of all, an example is an impression or point of view on a particular issue, and often our example can limit itself. In the end, it is always important to set a positive example for yourself because being a positive example can determine how happy, successful and confident you are. There are other examples, such as the paradigm on others. This book explains that you should never judge a person without knowing all the facts because there is always a chance that you do not know the whole story. Your ideology should be based on principles because too much obsession in the centre of one’s life can lead to the downfall of another. Living according to the principles is like being a bargain of sorts because you can solve all problems with honesty, hard work, responsibility, love and more. Part 2: The Personal Bank Account Your personal bank account is how you feel about yourself, so if you have a rich PBA, you are more likely to have a more positive relationship with yourself, and if you are poorer, You will probably go through a roller coaster of emotions and stay on your own. Easily destroyed. So how do you get rich or poor? The answer is by deposit and withdrawal. Additionally, when you earn money, it can be a promise to yourself, honesty, gentleness, renewing yourself, and more. At the other end of the spectrum are returned, such as breaking personal promises, killing oneself, and neglecting one’s abilities. The book says that not all reserves can always be large. Keeping that promise makes me “richer” and makes me feel better about myself. While it seems that being kind to others only benefits the person who receives the favours, it also makes the person who works generously feel great about himself. Building PBA reserves leads to a better life! Habit 1- Be Proactive There are two kinds of people in the world: proactive and reactive people. Proactive people are people who take responsibility, control themselves, and take action. On the other hand, the reactive people blame others, wait for things to happen, and complain about everything. Although being reactive is an easy way and does not require willpower, being motivated will be more beneficial. Also, this book really emphasizes that the one thing you are overcoming is yourself and that proactive people do not allow rudeness and comments to influence your behaviour and decisions. To help you stay proactive, this book gives you four simple wind power tools: self-awareness, conscience, imagination, and willpower. These tools help you think about the situation instead of reacting to the continuity. All people should try to be as proactive as possible because their behaviour has a good and bad attitude, avoids bad events, and does not consider misfortunes and things that they control like their race or weather. Can’t, and many other aspects that make life more enjoyable and successful. Habit 2 – Begin with the End in Mind Without keeping it in mind, you don’t know which way to go and you won’t know if you’re making the right decisions. The book tells you to imagine your future self and what your future self has done over the past year. The book also says that if we do not control our destiny, we often follow someone who is ready to guide us. Select To reach that conclusion,  Covey says the best way to do this is to write a mission statement. A mission statement can be anything from poems to songs, and exposing one’s abilities can help develop it. Covey tells you 4 ways you can use it to create a mission statement. The quote is: “Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep going. “-Albert Einstein. I chose this quote because we shouldn’t look at the negative things and differences or look back. The next book is about goals, and about making goals. Besides, there were a lot of great tips, such as writing down your goals and connecting with people who can help you or have the same goal. Habit 3 – Put First Things First Urgent, not urgent, important and not important.Which mix is best for organizing and planning your life?!?! Well, the answer is not necessary and important, it is a collection of priorities. The priorities are to do all the important things that are needed, and they don’t wait until the last minute to do so, so the priorities get it together and live their lives as stress-free as possible. However, not everyone can spend 100% of their time in the priority quadrant because, in the end, we are all just human beings. We all get bored sometimes, delay, and can’t say no. They waste their time doing uncomfortable unnecessary things like watching more TV or sleeping more, so these people are just putting their lives in the gutter. Then there are the delayers who do everything important at the last second. This book has also taught me about discipline, how to stay strong and get myself involved in certain habits like getting up on time and not being under peer pressure. Part 3:The Relationship Bank Account Before we learn about PBA, we now know about Relative Bank Account or RBA. The RBA has the same concepts as the PBA, but instead of having a relationship with itself, the RBA is about a relationship with others. Whenever you meet a new person, you open another bank account with him. If you want to create a positive or negative account, now it is your choice. To do this, like PBA, you will have to make deposits or withdrawals. Reserves will be things like keeping promises, doing good, being faithful, listening and saying sorry. On the other hand, some returns break the relationship. Evacuations are things like breaking promises, keeping them, gossiping, being arrogant, and setting wrong expectations. Setting false expectations can lead to disaster! It is like guiding someone because they really believe what you say. As you can see, relationships can determine how successful and happy you are. Habit 4 – Think win-win They say winning is not everything but who really wants to lose? This chapter talks about how everyone can win and be happy. In addition to winning situations, Covey describes win-lose, lose-win, and lose-lose situations. In Win-lose situation, one person often gets ahead of the other or engages in “I’m better than you” attitudes. Sometimes people can put the other person down or insist on doing it their own way without even considering the other person’s feelings. Usually, these types of people can see themselves winning, but they are not alone and friendly. Lose-win situations are like opposing a win-lose. In a lose-win situation, one person usually allows the other to win, and they keep their true thoughts because they don’t want to cause a big scene. They lack willpower and allow others to take their own path on important issues. People mustn’t fall into the cycle of defeat or victory, otherwise, they will move forward. When two  losers come together, it is the same as losing. Since the two men are trying to beat each other, neither of them is going to win, and they lost. Lost youth also think that if they can’t get it, no one can! As you can tell, these conditions will not help build your RBA. The solution is victory. This is where you care about yourself and you want others to succeed. You share success and treat everyone equally, which leads to victory for all. Getting into the habit of winning can be easy, but there are obstacles you need to overcome. The two obstacles presented in this chapter are competition and comparison. Competition is a great way to push yourself to the next level, but when you use it as a way to get ahead of others, it can become your enemy. Then there is the double competition. Comparing yourself can make you feel very unstable and make you feel inferior, which is very unhealthy. Although it’s hard to have a winning attitude, let’s get used to it because it can work wonders with a relationship! Habit 5 – seek first to understand, then to be understood. You may think that listening is as easy as speaking, but the real listener has many steps. First, listen to your eyes, heart, and ears before you open your mouth. People want to understand, and if they feel loved and understood by you, they will open up, but if you try to speed things up before you know anything, they will. To avoid these bad listening skills, the book says that when you are listening, not only listen to the words but also feel their emotions and look at their body language so that they are trying to say. ? It is also important to look at the story from their point of view, and another hint that was mentioned was to practice the mirror. The mirror is putting this person’s word inside. This method is great because it really makes the other person feel that you are listening and understanding them. It is important to try to understand, but we are trying to understand. You must give your opinion after listening to someone. Habit 6 – synergize Habit 6 focuses on how 2 can be better than 1 or in other words how harmony can create a better solution. To reach synchronization, you need to celebrate diversity, rather than just enduring it. People who celebrate diversity see differences as ways to be more creative, which opens up more opportunities. They realize that their differences are beneficial to each other, and they can do great things with it. Also, people learn differently. They can learn to be linguistic, logical, physical feminine, local, musical, interpersonal or intra-special. Because we all think differently, we can look at things differently and interpret them. At the top, we also have different styles, features and characteristics. As you can see, no two people can be the same, so why doesn’t everyone accept it and harmonize? Well, as always, there are obstacles. One of them is ignorant. It means you know how others feel, what they believe, and so on. Then some groups do not value anything that is not in their group, and there is prejudice. People make decisions without knowing them, even when they know others by their physical appearance. Although there are such people, there are many who celebrate and embrace diversity. Habit 7 – Sharpen the Saw The last habit talks about how to “sharpen” yourself, allowing you to get ahead of all other habits, which results in a better life. To rejuvenate or rejuvenate yourself, the book lists 4 key ingredients that you should regularly renew and strengthen: body, mind, heart and soul. It is important to divide your efforts evenly into 4 areas because if you don’t, it’s the equal balanced life. Covey explains that to take care of the body, You should exercise, eat healthy, sleep well, and rest. He also stressed that you should not be obsessed with getting the perfect body that you see in magazines and movies because, in reality, not everyone can get the perfect body or shape. Being overly insane can lead to eating disorders or stress yourself by exercising too much. Another thing they pointed out was that intoxication is very addictive and difficult to quit so never start because of peer pressure or curiosity because, in the end, you are destroying yourself. Are Next he moves on to brain care. This section discusses that you should not waste your chances of getting an education or getting an education because if you do, you may not be able to support your parents’ retirement funds on your own. So to take care of the brain, you can read, write, learn how to play the instrument, listen to the news, and research your ancestors and much more. Taking the time to really sharpen your brain will open up a lot more opportunities than people who spend days and days at the computer watching TV or people who don’t study. Because they are afraid that others might think of it. Even if you don’t like to learn, there is always something that will interest you and you will have to work hard for it. Sometimes teenagers will also get depressed, and Covey explains that no matter how bad things may be, you will always have a happy future, so you should never think about ending your life. Instead, look for something that makes you laugh, because laughing can help reduce stress and help us deal with difficult times. Finally, take care of the soul. By doing this, you will be able to stay in touch with your inner self and find what motivates you, such as meditation, writing, drawing, etc. As Covey puts it, “Everything has a time.” Keep hope alive. This book is full of information, so it’s common for teens to say, “I can’t do all this,” but Covey has expressed hope. Indeed, a regular teenager will not be able to overcome all these habits 100% right away, but you can always start a little bit and move on. Also, don’t be discouraged if things don’t go your way or if you find it difficult to apply these habits to your life because there is always a way. Even if you have to work harder than the people around you, it will all be worth it because all your efforts will pay off, and you will be able to cross your finish line with a smile!

– The writer is a freelance Columnist, based in Turbat.

 

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