“Ego – the relationship killer”


Iqra Sial

An ego is a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance. To have an ego is essential to our very makeup. It will define who we are and how we connect with others. We all have a sense of ego. YES, we all do! And we must learn how to control it.If you let your ego go unchecked, it can cause huge turmoil in your life especially along with your closest connections.Negative feelings, such as anger, resentment, fear and jealousy are all products of the ego. How ego causes suffering? The ego draws a great amount of energy ( negative thoughts and emotions) from the amygdale which is the portion of our brain capable from the battle and flight mode When you live only in ego, you will notice that you are constantly dissatisfied with life. Immediately you get hurt by anyone, lose your consciousness easily and give remote control of your life into the hands of others, results in misery, stress and kiosk. It’s a biggest hurdle in learning and self growth. Signs the ego: Losing oneself: Giving up your possess values, side interests, wants and in some cases companions and family to please the other individual. Believe it or not, this is often the ego’s endeavor to urge love. , we think that the way to get love is to alter ourselves into something the other person wants. The problem is that as we seek approval externally, we lose ourselves and our self-respect in theprocess. The need for approval becomes the obstacle to receiving love.Jealousy thoughts: jealousy and ego can be very destructive if you will follow your negative thoughts (jealousy) you will soon kill your relationship. Constant blame: On the off chance that you’re continually faulting your counterpart for everything, you would like a reality check. The ego cherishes to fault and criticize. It’ll do everything and anything to exchange and upbraid another. Unfortunately, that which we avoid is usually what we get in relationships. When we don’t take responsibility for our actions the ego will utilize this to project onto another. Transcending Ego: Be loyal and Honest: one can never be honest and loyal with others if he/she is not with the self. In stead of wearing the false mask( persona). Be true with the self and others, helps to reducing the ego.Practice tolerance: In order to let go of your ego, you have to consciously practice tolerance and make it a point to make“being offended” the last thing on your mind. Avoid from think that everyone is out to get you or insult you. Silence: it’s a language to understand the nature. Morning to evening you talk so much garbage with useless mind chattering, which helps to grow the ego. Eliminate and reduce the useless, silly and irrational talk. Breath is the bridge between body and mind, change its pattern (slow and deep) to attain silence.Love: love is our basic nature. Love the self and others without prejudice. Love and ego cannot exist together Watch and question: keep on consistent watching on your all belief and myths with awareness and honestly ask the question from the self that who is the biggest sufferer ( I, my family and my relations) of caring this EGO. ?Let go: never hold and remain prejudice for any past argument or incidence, just let it go and move forward.Remove “E” from ego and go mindfully. “Ego the three letter word is enough to kill 12 letters word relationship”.


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